In memories of my dear Friend - Wong Ming Fook
I haven't been blogging for ages, but today I am going to write an entry to remember a very dear friend of mine who has left us on 22nd Aug 2012.
I got to know him when I joined my first full-time job at M in 2005.
I recalled he met with a minor bike accident on my first day and he called the office:
Me: Good morning M
Mf: Who is this?
Me: June
Mf: June??? Er ok..can u help me to inform AC that I met with a bike accident, will be back in a few days.
Days later, he was back in office and we were introduced.. That's how and when we started becoming close colleagues cum friends.
At times when I had problems at work, he would be the first to help me. I recalled we always had problems with the company’s internet connection, he was supposed to take care of it. Then one day he passed the job to me since I was sitting nearer to the routers..and whenever the network was down, he’d be laughing and teasing at me.
Then he got a car, he would drive us out for lunch or even chauffer us to the nearest station after work even though it wasn't really on the way. And he knew I get car sick easily, he would continue to speed and do sharp turning just to make me feel worse and laughed at me after that.
One day, I was at his working desk, I saw him taking out a box filled with medicines and syringes, that was when I knew he was sick. I didn’t probe much, neither did he about my condition..we just knew..
Months later, an IT consultant came to our office, then mf brought me to him and introduced us..and that IT consultant is S. Then he tried to ‘match-make’ us by asking 2 of us out for movies and dinner..
We all went out with a group of friends and colleagues to a club, both of them knew I couldn’t drink and they started drinking for me whenever the rest forced me to..then they both got drunk and I remembered how funny the scene was - I took a cab and sent a lady colleague home first, at the same time they kept msg-ing me with lots of typos asking if I was alright. Then I heard they were thrown into a cab by mf’s cousin and sent home..and that was also how S and I got together after that..
Back at work, we had a few group of new colleagues - PF, AT, CF etc.
We would head out for lunch together with a group of other colleagues and there were always lots of things to chat and laugh about.
We also drove up to Msia a few times in a group with RM and MF who were more familiar with the roads there.
JB with RM (driving all of us there), PF, MF, S and myself.
KL with MF, AT, CF, PF, S and myself..we went to KL with 2 Cars and we used a walkie-talkie to communicate..it was really fun! We played games through the walkie-talkie, at times it got connected to the wrong channel and we heard different voices from people we don’t know. They knew I didn’t dare to take the Viking ship, they all ganged up and tricked me up telling me it was just a small ride. Ya right..it could turn 360 degree! I was crying like mad then.
Even till now, they still joke about it...
Mf is someone who always placed everything above himself, he was always ready to lend a helping hand to others..he played hard and worked very hard too. He always wanted to do everything by himself and to the best that he could. Very often, we had to remind him to take care of his health..watched his diet and control him from over-working.
When I left M, we still kept in close contact. We still meet up with the usual groups for CNY, xmas, birthdays..
My ex-colleagues would keep me updated of his condition.
I was schooling then, so during the holidays I would go back M to work part time, then it’s back to the days when lunch was always the happiest moment..with lots of jokes and laughters.
Few years back, he was warded to ICU, his kidney had failed and he had to do dialysis regularly..we were all very worried, I visited him almost everyday to make sure that he’s ok. He was discharged weeks later..
As I stepped into the working society, our contacts lessen but we still asked for each other’s well-being once in awhile. Then I heard he got married, it was a very simple ceremony with only families. A year later, he had a child..we were invited to his baby shower. That was when I first met Elijah Wong Tian Ci..he told us this baby is a gift from god, that’s why he named him Tian Ci. Indeed, it really is a gift and we are all really happy for him.
A month back, we received news that his mum left, we all attended the wake. We could see that he was very strong and tried to remain cheerful.
Few weeks back, I received his sms to invite us to his son’s birthday party on 2nd Sept..and I replied that we can attend. I was so looking forward to it.
On 21st Aug, I received news that his condition had turned for the worse and chances of survival was slim. We rushed down to the hospital, surprised to see him sitting up with the breathing aid, trying his best to talk and joke with all of us.
Before we left, he held S and my hand tightly, thanking us for the visit..and we told him “we will see each other again”.
The next day, at about 5pm, DN told me he has left…I was in office then, trying to control my tears.. “I just spoke to him yesterday!”
We attended his wake and cremation which was held yesterday at Mandai Crematorium. I wanted to say my last goodbye to my friend..
Dear mf,
Time flies, we have known each other for 7 years.
Wherever you are, you must know that you will always remain in my heart. I will never ever forget you as you played a really big part in my life.
Without you, S and I wouldn’t have got to know each other and got together blissfully until now.
Without you, I wouldn’t have understood the meaning of living life to the fullest.
Without you, my life wouldn’t be filled with so much happiness and great memories.
I’m sure you are in a better place now with no more pain and sufferings.
We will take care of A and Elijah for you as much as we can.
Elijah reminds us of you, please rest assure we will love him as much as we loved you.
Today, 26th Aug is your 30th Birthday.. Happy Birthday mf, my Precious Friend.
